The Side Hustle

I know I'm not scrolling, I'm not blaming myself for not living the life I want to have or frustrate myself I don't take action to build a life that I value, Of course, I feel not aligned with what I do now, but I know it's for the better, just keeping that monthly paycheck to be assured I can invest in my business, and when the time is there, am able to let go of what is now and build on what's going to be.

Others are mocking, because they don't see me as a serious business owner, a real business woman, but I am. And yes, I still get comments about my age, the way I look and that others underestimate me and my skills, but I'm already living proof that I can survive death and I'm going to be living proof again that I can climb up from that deep valley to be the best version of myself and live the life I truly want to live. What others say? I don't mind if they're not the people who do, live and act in the way I want to. If the opinion is about trying to get me down? Yes, it hits, but even when it's someone nearby I don't listen as close as I know that I don't want to be surrounded by a bad mood, neglecting behaviour and the disbelief of others. 

I know where I'm capable of and I believe that things that are aligned with me will find me. That's only going to happen if I surround myself with people that respect me, and let go of the ones that stay in their unhappy safe space, don't want to change something to live a happier life and keep on complaining about things without taking action to truly do something about it. 

So the people I truly speak with are the ones with a little spark inside to start something else, be someone else and get to know other things. And I don't mean to leave behind who you are now, but use your past in an effective way to structure a new version of yourself. I use my past as motivation to grow, a strength to believe in my capability and achievements in life. Because death will be there one day, how scary it might be and you don't have the option to do your life over again. So why should you wait to make a change?

I waited and waited over all those years to be respected. But I didn't respect myself, so the universe didn't give me any of that too, because it was totally not aligned with the signals I sent back. It was only at the moment I started to listen to my inner voice, listen to my body, that the universe gave me back my life, love, gratitude and a bundle of passion and positivity. You can want a lot of things, but if you behave in a way that's not aligned with what you want, you won't get it anyway.

In the end, it all went so fast. Next to the book I was writing, having my full-time job, I risked even more by starting a new business from scratch, from what hardly anything about than what I saw in the webinar and training platform I followed after. However, some fire inside told me I had to do this and strive for the things that really matter to me. The more I dove into the trainings and learned about the business, the products, the community, and the compensation plan, the more I started believing in the reality of my new future perspective. It felt like a rollercoaster, a rush through life, but a positive one. And I know there's a long road to walk, but I'm taking it step by step, and every pass I set on the path is progress I make. Just like how my recovery journey has been. 

And I know, it's more likely to see the benefit of the things you do in a short timespan, because you want that feeling that makes you proud, that makes you believe, and that gives you the results immediately. But, I know now that the best results are not the ones you achieve now or tomorrow. The best results are the ones you achieve in the long run, the results you get by not giving up despite the pitfalls, by showing up consistently, by figuring out who you truly are, by showing patience, and giving things time to evolve. 

When I talk about my recovery journey and the way I made it work out, people ask me how many weeks it took me to get where I am. Weeks? I mean, are you serious?

Only the method I followed has already taken months to give my body the proof that I would feed it every day. By then, my weight had stabilized and spread over my body, and even then, I had to build up my muscles again through body exercises and muscle training. If  I count that all together and look at the time till my body has been shaped in the way it is now, I think it took 5 years. Years, not weeks!

And people who don't take things seriously and aren't able to see their perspective in the long run, aren't my people. I honour the ones who craft their vision and who are willing to put in the work and see results over time, by taking action every day. It's not always easy and fun, but those exact moments are part of the learning process and really important not to skip in the journey to change your life. 

Those are the things I realised when starting my online business, communicating with my business partners, and also learning from their life experiences. We strengthen each other, build momentum, and are honest and transparent about the things that shape our life and business journey. Of course, the dark spaces you have to overcome within yourself feel lonely from time to time, but in here, there's always support by your side. Even if it's only an open mind to share your story with. 

For me, this is the most important part of building something on my own: finding the right people to connect with and with whom you truly can be and feel yourself. My passion is to show you, you're able to step into the best version of yourself, your life, and your ambitions by creating something of your own. And no, you're not figuring it out all alone, but it's truly something that belongs to you and grows as you grow yourself. 

And that is wonderful.

Self-control is a strength

Right thought is mastery

Calmness is power