If you're reading this blog, I know you will resonate with the following situation:
As I've been growing up as a child, my parents always taught me to only spend my money on things that were necessary.
Did I want those adorable shoes that all my classmates had? They told me 'no', because I had good shoes.
Did I want to go to a funpark and have something to drink? 'No', I could take a water bottle with me and bring myself something to drink from home.
Did I want a new book? 'No', I should have a look at Marktplaats for a second hand version or search for it in a thrift store.
It's not that I have a negative opinion about saving money, and knowing that it's not always needed. Especially when you already have something that's quite the same at home. However, this is a mindset that you'll be learning and implementing for years, and years, and years...
And what if it's keeping you stuck in investing in yourself, investing in a better life or a future that you want to realise?
That's what happened to me, and because I was really good at saving money, I could pay it in the end back to the government. They told me I saved too much, so I had to pay back taxes.
How I felt?
Incredibly frustrated
It felt like I was punished for being so generous and genuine with my money over all those years. At the start of 2025, and I'm not going to lie about it, I could pay 1500,- euros to the government, because they told me I had too much in my bank account.
Really, it made me furious, but I also had the realization that I should do something to make it not happen again. I had to invest in myself, in my health, my wealth and my future. I already knew this for a while, but I didn't know exactly how I could bring this to life.
I wanted to start working somewhere else, to have another job, being a support for others with the psychology skills I've build over the past years, but I didn't want to play that role, go to the office, meet my clients, tick them off till it's 17:00 pm to go home and do the same the day after. I could do one thing that's worthy: to be a support for others, but I wanted to have all my values ticked off when I would invest in myself.
As everyone, I started with good intentions at the beginning of the year. Still enthusiastic as I was about my first over the ocean solo trip to Nicaragua in november 2024, I told myself to be open for everything that would cross my path. I would click on things that felt aligned, gave me a hint of stepping into a better version of myself, and investing in a future without wasting my money to the government that doesn't even do things that truly benefit our society or the peace in our world.
And then, within the second week of January, an ad crossed my path that was calling for adventure seekers. Because I was still excited about my trip last winter, I fully felt aligned with that term. And I still do by the way. So I clicked on it, filled out a form, and then the magic happened.
I got introduced to an online platform, a training to build my own business, but also connected to others online, even from my own country, learned about health, wealth and how to improve those things in life next to growing myself in confidence, knowledge, strengths and surrounding myself with people who all want the same in their own unique way.
I was fast, hopped on the training, got a business set-up call with the person that was behind the ad, and then the struggle came:
Oh no, I have to pay money for this...
At that moment I was blocked. I did want to start with a cost as low as possible, but my mentor kept telling me that it really was the most beneficial for me and my business to start with a higher value. I felt scared.
What if I can't make it?
What if I don't see the money come back?
What if this person is created by AI and now is hacking me?
What if this is a rip off?
What if, what if, what if... all those anxieties kept going on in my head, and I didn't know what to do. On the other hand, I felt an overload of excitement, fire inside my chest and a burning 'YES, THIS IS IT!'
It has been for a while that my gut feeling was that strong. The last time was 6 years ago, when I took a bold move towards recovering from my eating disorder. I was going to act in completely the opposite way as I was believing in for years. But that experience, the fact that this step gave me back my life, made me realise that I had to do this.
So I struggled, moved forward, blocked my anxiety and told the woman on the other side of my screen that I trusted her, and that I would go all-in with the higher value package.
And now, when I'm already 7 months in the business, knowing that I'm on my way to create a better life for myself, for others and fully ticking off all of the boxes that value my life, I'm the most grateful and rewarded person in the world.
I listen to different trainings, I have contact with lots of people from the online space, I read books, gain knowledge and don't only think about it, but act on it, and fail forward. In a really short time span I've seen myself fallen in personality, felt broke, sad, lost, but kicked myself in the ass, went along with what I was doing and build strength within myself, stepped forward, and now really feel like I'm a mentor, an entrepreneur, someone to follow and to guide you the way to the life you feel like you can't have.
You can, I assure you!
You only have to know what you want
To build the believe in your unique self
Together with having the right vehicle & systems to make it happen
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