This year started with good intentions, but not exactly on January 1. I don't believe in those kinds of fluffy sentences people, including myself, speak out loud they 'want' to achieve, but never really get to see what it brings because they never take action. Or they take action, but their 'why' they want to achieve that goal isn't big enough, so they go back to old routines rapidly.
I truly think this is not for everyone, and some people set goals, have good intentions, and achieve everything, but it's all in the motivation that's driving them to take imperfect action, show up for themselves even when times get tough, and fail forward. Only if you go through those stages and don't decide in the middle to stop, will you achieve your goals
For me, the start of the year wasn't a new beginning. It was just a 'I'm going further with what I'm doing' vibe, and I knew down there in my gut feeling I wanted something else, but I couldn't find my purpose, and I thought sharing my story, writing my book would bring me lots of gratitude. And it did, but not for 100%.
I wanted to make an impact, share health, wealth, honesty, and adventure with others, but I didn't fully feel like I was on the right path. Until I opened up for everything that would cross my path and for a sudden I fell over an ad, got into a training, saw that this was it, this was a business vehicle with massive potential, I speed up, discovered truly why I want to be alive on this planet and withing 3 weeks I met a whole community of people who feel the same in their unique way and started my own online business as a mentor, as the person I've been searching for to grow myself into.
At that moment, the year unfolded for me, and not only my perspective about 2025. My whole vision about who I am and who I want to become changed rapidly. I noticed that I couldn't be the best version of myself if I would only speak about eating disorder awareness, recovery and guidance in mastering your own path from depth to recovery. I felt for a sudden that those recovery accounts that I've been following drained me in some way.
Of course, I loved their content, being pure, honest, and sometimes funny to make the disorder less a tough guide. But, I also felt I didn't align with that type of content anymore. I wanted to show the people in there that living your life to the fullest is possible, that sharing your story really opens the conversation, but that staying in the eating disorder world would keep you in there in some way. When I realised that, I got into my social media and unfollowed the platforms that I followed for years. It broke me in some way, but also opened doors for account I do love and that visualise the dream life I'm going to live.
My eating disorder past, my books, are the translation from me to you that you are the one who's ruling your life. You're the one who makes the decision between staying stuck, if that's in a blocking mindset, job, lifestyle or body, and start to build on achieving your goals.
My 3 main goals for this year are:
- I'll get my book in the media
- I reschedule and reframe my trip that I booked to Ecuador, so I can go and travel solo this year as well
- I earn at least 5 commission points within my new online business
And I'm now a little further as halfway the year, and I already (almost) achieved all of them. This is what I do:
..Don't overwhelm yourself with too much to achieve and keep it simple
I started by thinking big and had a long list of things I'd love to achieve this year, but just the simplicity in what you want to do, what you feel like you can achieve, but have to push yourself through, are things worth writing down. I wrote 3 main goals on a post-it and placed it on my fridge, where I could see them every day, and didn't make it too complicated. I really briefly asked myself: What exactly do I want to achieve, which is something I believe is possible when I give myself a kick under my ass. That's what fired me up and still keeps my energy high to reach the summit, because I believe I can achieve those things by the end of the year.
...Use positive affirmations
It sounds cliché, because a lot of people should already have been telling you that you need to be kinder to yourself, to really see the result in your inner belief system. I felt the same and I rejected everyone earlier on, because I found myself such an egocentric bitch by thinking positively about my skills and personality. However, did I feel happy? No, not at all. I didn't feel enthusiastic about the things that I wanted to achieve, because I thought I was not the right kind of person who was capable enough to reach those goals, to truly realise them, and to build momentum.
By stepping into my role as an entrepreneur and having contact with loads of people who shared the same struggles, but overcame them by community, opening up and growing in self-confidence, this made me realise I should try this.
Now, my day starts with standing a minute in front of my large mirror, watching and reading out loud the affirmations I wrote down on some post-its which I hung on the mirror. I didn't choose some random sentences, but really looked for the catching statements that fit with my goals, my values, and in what I surely want to believe.
The first couple of days I just read them out loud, nothing happened, but later on, while I did this every day, my emotions around the affirmations started to shift. I began to feel reel, to feel seen and a good person to be myself. I never skip a day without affirmations anymore, because I feel stronger, more effective and adventurous when I do so. And that, in the end, brings me to achieving my goals.
...Be 1% better every day
Start your day by doing the things that bring you back to what truly matters to you, to the tasks that are there to help you grow, build momentum and bring you closer to achieving your goals. If you go for a quick fix, then what I do isn't something for you. But if you are open to learn more about yourself, about your skills, values and take consistent action, even when times get tough, I'm sure you'll rock this business as well.
I start my day with a routine in which I do a workout, listen to a podcast, clear my inbox, prepare my food for the day at my regular job, get the right systems in place that will work when I'm at my job. While I'm often late at home, I use that time on the couch to watch a little Youtube, but after less than 20 minutes, I'm energized to blog, to make new advertisements, to create some creative posts in Canva and dive into the trainings where I have unlimited access to.
I always say 'I work on my business', but it's not really 'work' while I feel so passionate and thriving about it. It's a lifestyle that gives me perspective, value and a realisation of what my life could look like.
And if I can, so can you.
The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities
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